What? Why? Is it me? BPD & You

BPD & Me:

Yo! its me again, Adam! sorry its been a while, been a crazy world to live in lately!

We've had some life changing activity going on which caused a pandemic for a year and its still going now which is mind blowing as it is!! 

So thought id jump back on and do another blow and escape for a while... love letting my mind write and flow gives me a sense of relief, this blog will be dedicated to two very good friends of mine and anyone else in the world who sees them. but mainly to two of. y best mates I won't name them but ill send it them so they can see it ... I hope you don't mind ..... its going to be based on mental health of course... but this one is BPD ... Borderline Personality Disorder.

Let me out!! I can hear my mind saying one thing, but my hearts talking out loud... when will you stop laying each other against yourselves? will you give each other a break ? will you ever see eye to eye..? please... its time to stop making me think one thing and feel another... I'm only human... 

mental health isn't an easy aspect to deal with on a daily basis as it is, in the world there are 68,408,203 people living in the united kingdom at the moment. that's a huge population. if there is that many people living on and around the united kingdom how many people suffer with mental health....? 1 in 4 people suffer with some form / kind of mental illness in there lifetime. That's a huge percent of 25% which is still huge and thats only recorded statistics.

What I want to do in this is hopefully explain a bit more about what BPD is and what to expect and feel but also to realise by the end is your still human and have feelings and your still just as important as everyone else!! because remember having a mental illness isn't a bad thing it makes us stronger.

What? What is BPD...?

I heard you ask on several occasions What? but what did you need to know? what is it? what effects does it do to me?

Bpd is one of many mental health illness which stands for Borderline Personality Disorder. What does that mean....? it means its an ongoing occurrence of emotions, This is where you cannot actually control where you have any form of control over your feelings / emotions and self image & behaviour on a daily basis. when an individual has BPD its IMPORTANT to be Patient with them as its hard for them as an individual too. these episodes can cause them to feel weak after due to a mix of feelings and emotions all at once. its hard for an individual to build and have a relationship with others due to them having these types of feelings and not always being able to control them. the can last from an few minutes to days depending on the situation. if you can try and read up on it and help anyone you know with it get through a daily activity and measure them that there okay to feel this and also to go through this kind of emotion. It doesn't make them a bad person or any weaker then anyone else, in my eyes it makes them strong, brave, courageous, and strong as hell!! to have this and still come out on top is by far one the scariest but bravest things you could possibly imagine. I take my hat off to anyone who has it especially my two best mates!! <3 

Can I Tell?

Can you tell I've got it? can you see it? is it obvious?

We can't tell you've got it without knowing what to look for in yourself, so below I'm going to try my best to show some of the main symptoms and traits; but remember having this defo doesn't make you weak!! never ever ever!! 

Other signs or symptoms may include:

• Efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, such as rapidly initiating intimate (physical or emotional) relationships or cutting off communication with someone in anticipation of being abandoned
• A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often swinging from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
• Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self
• Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating. Please note: If these behaviors occur primarily during times of elevated mood or energy, they may be indicative of a mood disorder, rather than borderline personality disorder.
• Self-harming behavior, such as cutting
• Recurring thoughts of suicidal behaviors or threats
• Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
• Chronic feelings of emptiness
• Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
• Difficulty trusting, which is sometimes accompanied by irrational fear of other people’s intentions
• Feelings of dissociation, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside one’s body, or feelings of unreality

( item above copied from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder )

Also nobody can see you have BPD as its not a visible illness to the human eye. but just because someone hasn't got a visible illness doesn't mean there not suffering.. so always be kind to them! you never know what someone is dealing with, outside maybe fine but inside could be screaming for a friendly face or just a friend. being kind to people you could be the saver that day to them. 

is it obvious I have it?

not always, like most things in life it will need to be looked at and assesed before its confirmed. if you feel anything such as the symptoms above then ring up youre doctors or local GP and ask to have a chat to them and explain how you feel and what your feeling to your best ability and you will be helped, if you don't want to do it alone then ring a friend or family member and chat it through with them aswell. Talking is always a good option, that way your never be alone or feel lonely or have the need to feel scared when it comes to appointments. having someone around you that can listen help and support is always something that can feel like the worlds worst thing to feeling like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. a person detain with things with support is always so much better then dealing with things alone. so please remember its okay not to be okay and to seek help off a friend a family member or your Gp or in fact all of them!! <3 you're not alone... EVER!

is it hard work dealing with a friend with it? 

in my own opinion the answer is NO! its not!! if your friend or family member is someone who suffers from BPD then my advise would be.. sit down listen to them and listen to what there not saying too, it is a difficult one to understand but if your loved one or someone you know who has it the best advice would 1000% be just sit and support and listen and show them your there. if you can get online and do some research about it. true me its easy to understand when you read up about it, I think the two friends of mine who have it are just superheroes in my eyes as it takes a lot to deal with it on a daily basis. its is confusing for them on a daily basis based on there minds vs there hearts vs he rest of there body but there still human and still people who deserve nothing but love and support just like me and you reading this. bpd has good and bad days but if your willing to then ride the storm and the sunny days with them and stick by them do your research and honestly your have such a better understanding of it all, its by far one the best things I ever did. researching so I can help and support them on there ' learning days'.

support the ones who mean the most and even strangers because you could be there life line!

is there a way I can get control and balance it out? 

yes, there is. one of the main treatments to get it under control is psychotherapy which is the most common form of treatment for BPD. its where you can take time for a one to onemetting or a group session for you to talk to a therapist and explain how you feel and they can feed back to you and both work out what and things that will suit you as an individual. it ill also benifit the individual to express how they feel to others and share the emotion side to it all. other forms of treatment may include medication / dialectal behaviour therapy ( DBT ) / and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT ).

what are DBT & CBT ..? 

DBT uses concepts of mindfulness and acceptance or being aware of and attentive to the current situation and emotional state. DBT also teaches skills to control intense emotions, reduce self-destructive behaviors, and improve relationships.
CBT can help people with borderline personality disorder identify and change core beliefs and behaviors that underlie inaccurate perceptions of themselves and others and problems interacting with others. CBT may help reduce a range of mood and anxiety symptoms and reduce the number of suicidal or self-harming behaviors.

To learn more information about borderline personality disorder, visit:
Medline Plus (National Library of Medicine) 
http://medlineplus.gov 
(En espanol: http://medlineplus.gov/spanish)
ClinicalTrials.gov: http://www.clinicaltrials.gov 
(En espanol: http://salud.nih.gov/investigacion-clinica/)
For information on clinical trials, visit: 
For more information on conditions that affect mental health, resources, and research, visit the NIMH website (http://www.nimh.nih.gov).

** I hope this has helped you all out and also gave you an small inside of what BPD is, and how and where you can seek advice and support for this. please if you feel like your showing symptoms reach out to loved ones and also your GP and also please remember that your not ever going to face anything alone. not while you have people around you! ** 

YOURE NOT ALONE EVER! AND ITS OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY!

THANKS AGAIN FOR LISTENING. FROM Adam Wainwright 21ST DECEMBER 2021

This was written for two friends who I think a lot of and will always stand by there side and support them daily through it all. they both mean a lot to me and if this helps hem and me understand it more and also anyone else then ive dome the best I can to show my support! I hope this has done enough to help spread the word on BPD and its effects!